Lack of self control can be established as one of the critical roots to the tree of fears. If life is fitting and moving along fine there is little need to draw upon the inner skills of self control. Fear does not seem to appear. Self control only gets tested when the events of life grow to discover more things to fear. When life decides to amplify its challenges, fear begins to take root. When a person harbors many of the fears that take root in our life challenges, the need to improve self control is increased.
Getting a grip on the fears that appear is the best approach to the successful management of self control. The more fragile the self control the greater the fears take root. A prolonged practice of allowing fears to take deeper root will eventually develop into a larger succession of adjoining fears.
A person who harbors many fears is a person who has not developed enough skills of self control to manage living challenges. Therefore, as challenges increase, less will be done to overcome them. Too many fears barricade the belief that fears can be managed successfully. At this point, self control loses its test and increasing fears overwhelm the decision maker. Challenges take on permanent residence and fear has won.
Fear is the acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real.
The only way to remove fear is to gather more information. When a child cries for the fear of the dark, the only way to remove that fear is to turn on the light. When it is clear that no monster is in the room, fear is reduced. Increased information helped relieve the child of fear. Knowing that someone was there to be trusted also reduced the fear. Self-control was borrowed from the trusted supporter. When boys become men and learn to fear the light instead of the dark, and they fail to gather more useful information about what they fear, eventually the man is destroyed.
Fear was never meant to cause us to be afraid to face our challenges. Fear was only designed to warn us of pending challenges.
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